Stand Up For Yourself
Every day, our life takes us to situations where we must stand up for ourselves and take control of our being. Some of those situations may require a certain “state of mind”, because deferent situations ask for deferent conclusions and reactions. For example, when someone wants to attack you and try to hurt you, of course you will try to defend yourself, but what is important is – in what kind of way will you try to secure and protect yourself and show that you have self-esteem... That is very important… Considering what response you have in that environment, in some ways, tells a lot about you.
We are not animals. Every human is capable of love or hate, but most importantly – rational thinking and that makes us what we are. Our intelligence and rationality is probably the most complex thing in this world. In one particular case, we will take speaking as an example, as proof of how much we have evolved. Language is so evolved these days that not only we have so many different languages in one state, but some people are making their own languages to use them in movies and series.
Language is vital for communication and the more languages you know the better. Also, what’s important is to know how to communicate with different types of people in deferent kinds of situation and environments. As it was told, in situations I mentioned earlier, you can react in so many ways, but as you know, some of them can be good and some of them can be bad. You must always be as cool as possible, try not to get yourself in trouble and end up regretting what you have done for the rest of your life. In conclusion, you should always try to ease up the situation, because in the end you know that you are a better person. But in order to do that you must know different ways to talk to someone, to gain their trust, to make them relax and start paying attention to your words. Public speaking , for example, is very essential because when you talk to people in that way, some of them may not want to listen what you have to say because you sound too boring for them and you can’t “grab” their attention. Maybe you just don’t know how to talk with a crowd. There are certain ways to release yourself of the fear of speaking in public and how to talk in public with more confidence than before. Those ways, as everything else, can be learned and it will be of great help for what the future holds.
Fear of speaking in public can lead you to losing your thread of thought, that can distract you from saying or explaining what you want. That can affect everything, but there are ways to stop that from happening. You can take a public speaking course , of course, reducing and negating some of the following effects, which often create problems:
Your heart rate
Some people have problems when they are surrounded with big groups of other people and then their heart starts to beat so fast and no one can stop it from “exploding”. It is even worse when it comes to talking to them. Those problems can be solved in different types of ways and one of them is breathing. There are types and styles and different ways to breath, to slow your heart rate and calm yourself down. Every day practice makes it perfect and, after sometime, you will not even have to use it anymore.
You feel a strange pain in your stomach
People have this strange feeling in their stomach when they are in love. We call it “butterflies in our stomach” and, as we know, that feeling is unexplainable. We go thought a similar feeling when we are scared. Breathing exercises can also help in these kinds of situations and there are so many other ways to stop all this affecting your life in a negative way.
You feel worried because you don’t know how people will react to your speech
This is a most common affect and you cannot pass it if you don’t have confidence in yourself. If you want to be successful in this one, you just have to say that to yourself and not give up when the time comes and tell yourself that you can do it. Just stand up and take a chance, maybe someday it will pay off or maybe it won’t, but either way you know you tried and gave it all you can…
