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COHABITING

You’d think that moving in together would make you a tighter couple. But since you no longer have to put any effort into getting together, you can easily become lazy and start taking each other for granted.

A TOO-BUSY SOCIAL SCHEDULE

It’s great to get out of the house and see friends. After all, you don’t want to become totally dependent on each other. But if all you downtime includes being with other people, you aren’t incorporating important time to chill- and bond- as a twosome.

CRITICIZING–EVEN MILDLY

The better you know someone, the more you notice their flaws.. and the more comfortable you feel pointing them out. Since nit-picking creates distance, try to make a concerted effort to stay positive, and  be sure to compliment you guy when he does something that you appreciate.

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INSTEAD OF FALLING INTO THE HABIT OF RECAPPING THE MINUTIA OF YOUR DAY, TALK TO YOUR LOVER ABOUT WHAT REALLY EXCITES YOU… LIKE…

HAVING ENGAGING CONVERSATIONS

If you want to remain interested in each other, you need to be interesting yourself. Instead of getting bogged down by the minutia of your day, talk about  something interesting and about something that really excites you. Maybe you saw an amazing movie you can’t stop thinking about, or you read an article that made your blood boil. Bring back the vitality that you found so attractive in the first place by being a more vibrant person.

TOUCH EACH OTHER… A LOT

Nothing telegraphs closeness and caring more than touch. The simple act of holding hands when you walk together or resting your head in his lap when you’re watching TV will keep you connected as a couple. It’s not necessarily about being sexual, it’s just that touching each other throughout the day helps reaffirm your affection .

HAVE FUN

If you ever see a twosome acting like kids, it’s pretty safe bet that they’re newly in love. Couples are playful when they first get together, but long-term partners tend to lose that sense of frivolity. To bring it back, do things together that make you both laugh. Play with a Frisbee, challenege each other to strip poker (LOL), or sneak up and hug him from behind. You don’t always have to be serious just because you’re in a serious relationship .

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