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<!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:1.0in 1.25in 1.0in 1.25in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} -->                          Five most valid reasons for getting divorce from your spouse! I am happy to know that you have got married recently. Still, I am not happy because, you have not invited me for your marriage though you know pretty well that I am your well wisher. But I am satisfied with your explanation that you have got married under the most difficult circumstances and against all odds. As you said not even a month is over after completing your honeymoon. But I am shocked to learn that you have come here seeking my counseling for your marital life. You have hardly spent six months after getting married; but I feel sorry that within this short span of time, you have got disillusioned with your spouse and your marital life. After all life is to enjoy, but not to get disillusioned with even for the slightest or silly or flimsy reasons. These are all just like air bubbles that surface on the top of the deep sea or ocean of life. They will just come and go provided that you remain patient and these are just trivial things to be ignored. Yes, agree with what you have said. You know pretty well how to tackle these silly things. But you said that you were actually mentally disturbed by some other intricate and problems of higher proportion. Though you might have come across a number of problems in your marital life by this time, only a few valid reasons are there to have a parting of ways with your spouse. 1)Your spouse must have deserted you at least for a period of two years. Your spouse must have deserted you long back, at least for a period of two years from the date of marriage. That means your spouse has utterly neglected you; not having cohabitation with you; not providing maintenance to you ever since you got married. But in your case, only six months have elapsed from the date of your marriage and your spouse has not deserted you; lives and cohabits with you. Therefore, you cannot avail desertion as a ground for getting divorce from your spouse. 2)Your spouse must have been suffering from an incurable disease.  Then if your spouse has been suffering from an incurable disease like HIV +, venereal  disease like syphilis, an incurable and an advanced form of leprosy etc; then  you have a valid reason to divorce your spouse. Your marriage might have been solemnized and might have been blessed by elders, but you cannot suffer eternally in the name of solemnity or risking your life. 3.Your husband must have been living in adultery.  Is your spouse living in adultery? With whom? Have you got it confirmed? A stray incident of adultery is not enough to say or prove that your spouse has been living in adultery.Your spouse must have been habitually and continually committing and living in adultery. But have you ever thought over why your spouse has been living in adultery.What is wrong with your sex life? Are you satisfied with your spouse during your sex life? Before, choosing adultery as a valid reason for getting divorce from your spouse, why don’t you get a counseling from a sexologist to find out what is wrong with your sex life; if you really find any thing wrong in your sex life, then you should try to make necessary corrections therein. Then, it is better to have a open dialogue with your spouse and try to sort out the differences and the problems that remain between you and your spouse. You should bear in mind that you should remain committed to your spouse in the sex life.Despite taking all these steps, if your spouse still lives in adultery, then there is no reason or logic to continue your marital life with your spouse. Definitely you have got a valid reason to divorce your spouse. 4.Your spouse does not contribute anything to run your family You mean to say that your spouse utterly neglects you economically too; does not contribute even a single cent to run your family; for the cause of you or your children; is your spouse a spend-thrift? a miser? niggard? Revels in saving everything that he or she earns? Then you have got a valid point. After all marital life is meant for sharing everything. It should not remain a one way traffic.If you feel that all your legitimate ways to mend your spouse were in vain, then definitely you have got a valid reason to seek divorce from your spouse besides demanding maintenance from your spouse for you as well as for your minor children. 5.You are suffering from mental agony and torture caused by your spouse. You have got everything to live happily in your marital life. Both of you are earning sufficiently to run a decent life.You have got all the modern gadgets at your home.You are blessed with a beautiful child too. Still you are not living happily.Your spouse is greedy and not satisfied with what you are earning; expecting something more and more from you.Your spouse is captious; finding fault with you even for a silly reason; always picking up a quarrel with you on the one pretext or another.Always use filthy words against you; going a step further, your spouse assaults you and even poses a threat to your life.Your spouse is a sadist; revels in harassing and causing mental agony to you. Definitely, you have got a valid reason to seek divorce from your spouse. My friend, by this time you might have come to a conclusion whether you have got a valid ground for seeking divorce from your spouse. But for the reasons mentioned above, you cannot run from pillar to post on the pretext of seeking a divorce from your spouse wasting both your precious time as well as your hard earned money; in the absence of above mentioned valid grounds, it is always better to carry on!