Believing
Wow, I use to believe in people, churches, and family. With the way our world is has changed traumatically, I lost faith in people. I don't sit here and want to claim I am perfect because there is only one that is perfect and that is our Creator. Where relationships worked hard to work as a team, now today divorces rate has rised. Trusting in humanity anymore, it is getting even harder to find a good loyal and trustworthy friend. One who you go too, to keep your most personal secrets and will not jude you for being yourself. Friendship is like two sides of a coin, sometimes between two friends or more, it may be sour some day, and bitter in other days, and than some days it may be sweet but no matter what your friendship is like, a true friend will walk through it with you, that is what makes a bond between two friends. Building a friendship is a stronger form of interpersonal, socialogy,social psychology,anthropoly,philosphy,In the field of acedemic studies such as; sympathy,empathy,honesty,altruism an dmutual understanding, having compassion,enjoying each other company when in each other presence or away from each other and trust and having the ability to be your self, not pretending to be someone or acting like someone you are not, or having to dress in a particulair way just to be accepted. I f the person wants to have a friendship with another person than the person or person will accept you as you, and who you are and your differences as well as you accept the other person or person's.
As a human being, we all make mistakes in life but a friend, a true and trustworthy friend will not judge or the person who may express one's feelings, make mistakes without the person or person's having the fear of judgment. Friends will be honesty with one another, not lie to each other and only say what they believe you want to hear. Example: Betty, do you really believe I look good in this dress? What do you think of my shoes? William, inside he may think, you look horrible in that dress or your shoes are not as upbeat as the fad that is in and other's may be wearing. A friendship is not build on what your wearing or keeping up with the styles or fads, it is build on what is in your heart, a open an dhonest communication. In light my own experience: One particulair person who I have met when I first moved in the area in my community, she came on strongly as a very gently and compassion person but as we building our friendship, as I stated, I am not perfect either is she. I was upfront with her from the beginning, I am not a partier, I do not drink aolchol, I do not use profound language, or hang out with a crowd of people who just drags you down. She was a partier, and drank and did other things that was not moral or law abiding. Yet still, I put more of my energy in trying to help her and to guide her in the right path and I did except her as herself, but as a true friend, I could not stand by and watch her destroy herself. I was very open up with her about her destructive way of living. On th eother hand she would not except me, because I was a good to shoes as she well put it, a nerd, I over-looked it many times. Hyperthyical speaking, she would be the kind friend that would hide under a berry bush if I would of happen got jumped or bullied, or What not. A few months ago, I was rushed to the hospital with some heart problems, and I called her: she didn't want to hear what I had to say but she over talked me, sharing me all of her problems, another words, she was self-centered, selfish and only thought of your ownself. When I was released from the hospital, all I wanted to do is come home and relax and take a easy. I was type of friend to Kay, that would be there for Kay. To describe her as nice as I can put it, she was type of friend that was like a ball and chain, she would take the virtue out of me with all her cpmplaints, her drama, her gossipping, and knick picking, and juding. Finally, it came to the point to sit down and have a long open and honesty conversation between just her and I. Well, she would not hear of it and did not want to hear the truth of what all I had to say, so she just completely stopped calling me anymore, would hide from me by going different directions and would not face the problems we were having in our friendship.
A true friend is pure and open a true friendship enhance and individuals sense of working togethr, and sense of happeiness and over-all being. Rather two friends has been friends for many year's or just new friends, remember that friendship has two dimensions.
Qualtiy: And Conflicts
Quality friendsyhip is imported for individuals person's well being. Two friends that would find ways of resoving the issues that caused the conflict, and not placing one responsibility or fault on one person, utimely it will lead to stronger and healthy friendship relationship. HAving a good open and honesty friendship has been known and called "Life Enancing", A true quality and healthy friendship is one or two or more that will find good ways of responding in resoving conflicts and not adding wild goats or fire to the bush. Instead, to build a healthy or continue to have and healthy friendship relationship is not makeing the other feel like they are the ball and chain, another words, if you start conflicts, friction in the neighborhood, in your community and knowing you are the one who started the conflict, than don't expect your friend or friends to bill you out or drag them in the middle of because you continue to this behavior pattern. Friendship rel;ationship, is based on reality of two people working together and reminded that friendship does have two sides of the same connection to one another. Friendship can either go sour and be torn apart or friendship can grow into a healthy and stronger form of interpersonal bond than acquaintanceship. It is in the hands of who you choose, or socialize with to bond a friendship with each individuals.
